In our post, The Feminine and the Masculine, we opened up the territory of the feminine and the masculine at play within each of us. Here we dig a little deeper into the nature of those roles and get a chance to see the inner workings of the process. The discussion was triggered by a dream, but it is easy to extrapolate these ideas into an understanding of how decisions are made within ourselves, at deeper levels, with input from both energetics, and also about how we relate in our relationships with the opposite gender in our outer lives.
John: So there is a dilemma that the feminine faces. As discussed, in your dream you were operating in two spheres, one feminine and one masculine. The masculine energy took the direct action – you rescued the young girl. The masculine basically intruded into the physical realms and took her away. That is an overt action that has to have consequences. The feminine energy operates in you from a more overall perspective, as a container and as a holder of the events taking place, but the masculine action is done with the support of the feminine energy.
To say it another way, the girl had to be rescued because the situation was inappropriate. So the feminine supported that. But because the feminine is connected to an overallness, collateral damage had to be considered. Things that are out of balance need to be balanced. In this instance, the feminine worked from the natural flow to bring a tranquility to a difficult situation, which you can see by the efforts made in the events of the dream to allow for the mother to not remember or know what happened, minimizing the effects of the action.
This process opens us up into the inherent humility and graciousness of the feminine. She has to determine to what degree the situation needs to be faced directly, in terms of the abruptness (the rescue), and to what degree it needs to be toned down (the hiddenness). Perhaps the action of taking the child away was too much, so to reinstate a certain sense of balance, or flow, to the situation, the feminine absorbs the collateral damage, allowing for a softer landing.
All of this is part of the feminine; this is the feminine role. If the masculine takes direct action without the support of the inner plane elements, meaning the action is taken without the context of an overall flow, it will set off reactions, set off the ego, and thereby disturb the tranquility of things.
The masculine has its role to play, but needs to do it with a certain feminine development in terms of responsibility for its overt action. It has to go back and forth and weigh inside of itself the inner flow, has to weigh that flow before it actually takes an outward action. The masculine has to learn timing from the feminine. It does not know timing very well. Left to its own devices, the masculine can’t fully get something once it sees it; it feels like it can’t get a situation out of the way fast enough, even though things often require a certain patience and an ability to work in relationship to integrating with the whole.
If you think about this, this relates to sexuality, too. The feminine has to feel that it is safe and okay to allow something overt (masculine) to happen. That feeling of safety is associated with surrender. The feminine is very comfortable with its aspect of providing an overall container, an aspect that is largely kept unconscious because she relates so well to the flow.
So for the feminine, just the experience within the flow is sufficient. The explanation of the events that took place and the details of what it was all about, somehow or another denigrate the expression (of the flow).