Responsibility and Acceptance

John: In your dream you made a wonderful accommodation to the flow of events by trying to contain the ramifications of your actions and minimize collateral damage to the others involved. Interestingly, I had a similar process in my dream, so in listening to you I immediately could sense what you were doing and what part was most pressing for you. I am getting shown this information in my dreams about how the inner affects the outer. For example, yesterday I was thrown around by events and I didn’t handle it very well. It felt awkward, and that was because what had to be accommodated by me was already an effect in the outer; I was dealing with the consequences of something. In that situation it is very difficult to bring tranquility to the inner, when the horse is already out of the barn, so to speak. It’s much better and ultimately easier to evaluate potential outcomes on the inner plane first, and find a way to maintain balance before actions are made manifest in the outer.

Even so, sometimes catastrophes happen and the challenge is in becoming the container of the catastrophe. Basically, catastrophes create fragmentation in the outer, and the inner wants to bring containment back to the situation, to re-establish wholeness.

My dream began from the perspective of observing fluctuations in this back and forth process from within, just as you were in your dream. In an everyday awake thinking process we are familiar with observing the flow of thoughts in our head, and then taking actions based on our best analysis. In the dream state, this inner debate can often feel like you are being tossed around. Whether awake or dreaming during the thought process, no decisions are made yet; you haven’t directly affected the outer reality, but your thinking process does create an indirect effect.

In your dream, your concern was mostly from the perspective of containment and maintaining flow (feminine), and secondarily taking action (masculine). The masculine dominated my inner process, evaluating direct actions to effect changes in the physical world. A man can’t really freely accept; he has a difficult time with that. So in order to facilitate acceptance within him, he creates this process through which he earns it, and then it can be accepted. So he has to weigh the inner process and find a route that allows him to accept the responsibility of the actions he brings to the outer world. A man can’t be there like a robot and just do this or that – it’s not natural for him. He exercises a peculiar quality of freedom of choice in this.

The responsibility has characteristics. Sometimes the inner effect is introduced as a tease but can be quickly retracted if it does not go over well. This has been termed a “coyote energy” approach. Other times the act taken is overt and one stands there and absorbs the reactive consequences in order to facilitate the change into an acceptance. Again, this is harder because to do this one has to be surrendered to the world. Surrendered in the sense that the masculine can’t get all caught up in ego, and react aggressively, because then that subtle conscious level – an aspect of flow and the container quality of the feminine – can’t slip through to the outer. If that is prevented, it puts one in the densest part of oneself, out of the flow. Then all the dense dynamics of ego and aggression and judgment just stay there, dominating the circumstances.

So it is important when an effect is to be significant in the outer, that the inner plane dynamics are allowed to be subtly introduced and the back and forth that is largely unconscious be carefully weighed. Then when the timing is right, the overt effect is initiated with the hope that an intuitive and reflective spark is recognized. I say recognized because that intuitive and reflective spark is already there – it is the feminine side of the equation. It is there to enable life to adjust to the new circumstances in a way that takes into account and accepts the inner plane guidance.

This entire discussion describes how this process typically happens within each of us, all the time, yet is done mostly on an unconscious level when it comes to humanity as a whole. However, to facilitate change where the responsibility for that change flows naturally, there has to be to some degree of conscious perception that is simultaneously realized. That is the masculine perception. It involves an overt awareness and attention different from the flow. This is often understood as the crippling effect of the go-getter (masculine). It takes a lot of graciousness and surrender to have to bear the burden of being the facilitator of the impact – especially when as the facilitator you stand out in the open and must bear the consequences.

If, as the facilitator, the effect is deemed inappropriate for life or isn’t received well, then humility, surrender, and forgiveness have to be automatic. This role falls directly upon the masculine expression. The feminine, in her graciousness provides, within the wholeness, a container to support the context. If the context is inappropriate, the feminine, in her humility, surrenders, has forgiveness, and must adjust the container by absorbing the effect in a meaningful manner. Sometimes the context needs to be thrown out and the reaction accepted in its place, but the flow is the feminine’s domain. In other words, the feminine knows, it just knows.

This post is the continuation of a discussion that began with The Feminine and the Masculine, and has continued through Containment and Action and Fragmentation and Wholeness.

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