Archive for February, 2010

John: In your dream you made a wonderful accommodation to the flow of events by trying to contain the ramifications of your actions and minimize collateral damage to the others involved. Interestingly, I had a similar process in my dream, so in listening to you I immediately could sense what you were doing and what part was most pressing for you. I am getting shown this information in my dreams about how the inner affects the outer. For example, yesterday I was thrown around by events and I didn’t handle it very well. It felt awkward, and that was because what had to be accommodated by me was already an effect in the outer; I was dealing with the consequences of something. In that situation it is very difficult to bring tranquility to the inner, when the horse is already out of the barn, so to speak. It’s much better and ultimately easier to evaluate potential outcomes on the inner plane first, and find a way to maintain balance before actions are made manifest in the outer.

Even so, sometimes catastrophes happen and the challenge is in becoming the container of the catastrophe. Basically, catastrophes create fragmentation in the outer, and the inner wants to bring containment back to the situation, to re-establish wholeness.

My dream began from the perspective of observing fluctuations in this back and forth process from within, just as you were in your dream. In an everyday awake thinking process we are familiar with observing the flow of thoughts in our head, and then taking actions based on our best analysis. In the dream state, this inner debate can often feel like you are being tossed around. Whether awake or dreaming during the thought process, no decisions are made yet; you haven’t directly affected the outer reality, but your thinking process does create an indirect effect.

In your dream, your concern was mostly from the perspective of containment and maintaining flow (feminine), and secondarily taking action (masculine). The masculine dominated my inner process, evaluating direct actions to effect changes in the physical world. A man can’t really freely accept; he has a difficult time with that. So in order to facilitate acceptance within him, he creates this process through which he earns it, and then it can be accepted. So he has to weigh the inner process and find a route that allows him to accept the responsibility of the actions he brings to the outer world. A man can’t be there like a robot and just do this or that – it’s not natural for him. He exercises a peculiar quality of freedom of choice in this.

The responsibility has characteristics. Sometimes the inner effect is introduced as a tease but can be quickly retracted if it does not go over well. This has been termed a “coyote energy” approach. Other times the act taken is overt and one stands there and absorbs the reactive consequences in order to facilitate the change into an acceptance. Again, this is harder because to do this one has to be surrendered to the world. Surrendered in the sense that the masculine can’t get all caught up in ego, and react aggressively, because then that subtle conscious level – an aspect of flow and the container quality of the feminine – can’t slip through to the outer. If that is prevented, it puts one in the densest part of oneself, out of the flow. Then all the dense dynamics of ego and aggression and judgment just stay there, dominating the circumstances.

So it is important when an effect is to be significant in the outer, that the inner plane dynamics are allowed to be subtly introduced and the back and forth that is largely unconscious be carefully weighed. Then when the timing is right, the overt effect is initiated with the hope that an intuitive and reflective spark is recognized. I say recognized because that intuitive and reflective spark is already there – it is the feminine side of the equation. It is there to enable life to adjust to the new circumstances in a way that takes into account and accepts the inner plane guidance.

This entire discussion describes how this process typically happens within each of us, all the time, yet is done mostly on an unconscious level when it comes to humanity as a whole. However, to facilitate change where the responsibility for that change flows naturally, there has to be to some degree of conscious perception that is simultaneously realized. That is the masculine perception. It involves an overt awareness and attention different from the flow. This is often understood as the crippling effect of the go-getter (masculine). It takes a lot of graciousness and surrender to have to bear the burden of being the facilitator of the impact – especially when as the facilitator you stand out in the open and must bear the consequences.

If, as the facilitator, the effect is deemed inappropriate for life or isn’t received well, then humility, surrender, and forgiveness have to be automatic. This role falls directly upon the masculine expression. The feminine, in her graciousness provides, within the wholeness, a container to support the context. If the context is inappropriate, the feminine, in her humility, surrenders, has forgiveness, and must adjust the container by absorbing the effect in a meaningful manner. Sometimes the context needs to be thrown out and the reaction accepted in its place, but the flow is the feminine’s domain. In other words, the feminine knows, it just knows.

This post is the continuation of a discussion that began with The Feminine and the Masculine, and has continued through Containment and Action and Fragmentation and Wholeness.

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We are distilling what can be learned from the dream described in The Feminine and the Masculine, continuing on from the deeper analysis in our second approach, Containment and Action. The thread continues here, in an attempt to open up some of the mysteries of the roles of masculine and feminine, within an individual life, expressed within the needs and requirements of the events of a dream. When these roles are naturally expressed as part of a wholeness, things tend to go smoothly. When not, trouble lies ahead. The implications in this for what we experience in our daily lives are, I think, enormous.

John: So if you begin by considering that there is a wholeness, and within that wholeness, within the greater context of it, is the feminine. And still deeper within that, the feminine has issues because she has been spread out into a million pieces, by all traces of history that have derailed her from her natural processes and her natural role. When one is not able to accept the fullness of what is given them, because it seems too much, it becomes splintered. That is the only possible way to handle it – to fragment it down into manageable parts. The pieces are still part of the whole, but it is much more difficult to take the wholeness fully into account. As an aspect of the whole you (Jeane), the feminine represents the quality of containment, and the masculine represents the overt qualities that bring something into life. So they each have a different way of exercising their approach; the masculine in terms of the consequence, the feminine in terms of absorption. So the feminine aspect of absorption tends to, or wants to, or tries to keep what needs to be handled more in balance, more connected to the flow at an unconscious level. The feminine seeks to keep things in order and is a container for the context of what occurs.

So what is happening in your dream is that, on one level you are considering the options of how to handle the situation, and at a more inner level you are also feeling the impulse of something that is coming into life as a flow. So you are going back and forth between them. You are having thoughts within the dream, yet those thoughts are not instantly released into the reality of dream events, which tells you that the overview perspective is coming from inner plane thinking. Yet even during that process, your inner plane thinking is having subtle unconscious effects upon the outer plane events, reflected in the actions of the other people in the dream. It is reflective, so you can go back and forth inside as you gain the sensibility of how best to accomplish what you want to accomplish; what will the overt action look like? So when you ultimately do take overt action (to rescue the girl), you have sparked something from the inner to manifest into the outer. Having a flow in the outer requires a connection to the subtle inner. If that requirement of the inner isn’t taken into proper account, if the timing isn’t right, if what takes place is too much, and all that subtle connection is not integrated into the overt action, then essentially the approach is broken, it’s fragmented. If it were done naturally it would happen very fluidly – the inner feminine would weigh the options, choose of path of least collateral disturbance, and then effect the masculine to take an overt action in the outer plane, with full support from the feminine, which is both upholding the context of the action and absorbing the collateral disturbances to minimize any traumatic effects.

When it all works in uniformity, it almost becomes a non-event – it is in the flow of things even though many processes have been at play. When something is fragmented in terms of the container not fully being the container and able to facilitate, hold onto, and absorb things, when that isn’t possible then you have a trauma or a disturbance in the outer plane, which rejects the context of what has taken place. That’s when a whole new set of consequences arise and must be dealt with: is my taking away the girl going to blow up in my face when the mother finds out? What will the ramifications of that be? Will you have to justify what happened without the benefit of being completely comfortable in your actions?

The dream shows that you were working from a perspective of flow, balancing the inner with the consequences of the outer, but you felt “tossed about” a bit because the events weren’t fully contained. You kept the events largely unconscious – that is an easier approach. The more difficult process to handle is when you stand firmly within the flow in relationship to the overt disturbance and the collateral effect it has. That is the hard part. The easier part is to be able to keep it unconscious so that it can come across.

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In our post, The Feminine and the Masculine, we opened up the territory of the feminine and the masculine at play within each of us. Here we dig a little deeper into the nature of those roles and get a chance to see the inner workings of the process. The discussion was triggered by a dream, but it is easy to extrapolate these ideas into an understanding of how decisions are made within ourselves, at deeper levels, with input from both energetics, and also about how we relate in our relationships with the opposite gender in our outer lives.

John: So there is a dilemma that the feminine faces. As discussed, in your dream you were operating in two spheres, one feminine and one masculine. The masculine energy took the direct action – you rescued the young girl. The masculine basically intruded into the physical realms and took her away. That is an overt action that has to have consequences. The feminine energy operates in you from a more overall perspective, as a container and as a holder of the events taking place, but the masculine action is done with the support of the feminine energy.

To say it another way, the girl had to be rescued because the situation was inappropriate. So the feminine supported that. But because the feminine is connected to an overallness, collateral damage had to be considered. Things that are out of balance need to be balanced. In this instance, the feminine worked from the natural flow to bring a tranquility to a difficult situation, which you can see by the efforts made in the events of the dream to allow for the mother to not remember or know what happened, minimizing the effects of the action.

This process opens us up into the inherent humility and graciousness of the feminine. She has to determine to what degree the situation needs to be faced directly, in terms of the abruptness (the rescue), and to what degree it needs to be toned down (the hiddenness). Perhaps the action of taking the child away was too much, so to reinstate a certain sense of balance, or flow, to the situation, the feminine absorbs the collateral damage, allowing for a softer landing.

All of this is part of the feminine; this is the feminine role. If the masculine takes direct action without the support of the inner plane elements, meaning the action is taken without the context of an overall flow, it will set off reactions, set off the ego, and thereby disturb the tranquility of things.

The masculine has its role to play, but needs to do it with a certain feminine development in terms of responsibility for its overt action. It has to go back and forth and weigh inside of itself the inner flow, has to weigh that flow before it actually takes an outward action. The masculine has to learn timing from the feminine. It does not know timing very well. Left to its own devices, the masculine can’t fully get something once it sees it; it feels like it can’t get a situation out of the way fast enough, even though things often require a certain patience and an ability to work in relationship to integrating with the whole.

If you think about this, this relates to sexuality, too. The feminine has to feel that it is safe and okay to allow something overt (masculine) to happen. That feeling of safety is associated with surrender. The feminine is very comfortable with its aspect of providing an overall container,  an aspect that is largely kept unconscious because she relates so well to the flow.

So for the feminine, just the experience within the flow is sufficient. The explanation of the events that took place and the details of what it was all about, somehow or another denigrate the expression (of the flow).

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