Friend or Foe

Jeane: I am in a regular kind of room with a bed near the door, and there is a man lying on that bed. I am sitting on a chair; I feel like a man in this dream. On the other side of the bed, on the far wall are round disks that have a button right above them or right in the middle of them. It seems as if they are part of an alarm system. I have the impression that we are guarding something or someone; it’s almost like we are guarding the president.

So, I am sitting still in the chair and the other man is sleeping or lying down on the bed. I can sense a flickering or something in the lights and I know there is something wrong. I stand up and walk around to where the alarm is; to the part that is my alarm. While I am doing this, I suddenly sense that the man on the bed might be an enemy. He might be part of an assault or attack, or whatever the problem might be. So I announce out loud that I have already activated the alarm, thinking that he might interfere with me before I get to it. Then I do get over and push the button. I walk past it and want to open the door to the hallway, but I have this feeling of unease because my sense is that the other guards and the people outside should be here by now, and I can’t hear any sounds or see any lights out there. So I have this sense of unease that something is wrong and I wake up.

John: So this is a dream that has built on something that occurred in real life. You’re holding a space (the room), but something isn’t coming together in terms of the masculine flow (the man sleeping on the bed, i.e., me), or a quality of bringing energy through. You are being vigilant in terms of your energetic presence, waiting and alert, but this other energetic is laying down.

So something isn’t coming together, and you start to wonder if, because it’s not coming together, then maybe it’s the enemy. You were feeling, as part of your overallness or a higher self-inflection, that with the combination of you and that energy, something important was being sustained. But because there is something about the energy that is represented as lying down, that is not on the job even though you are vigilant, it means that it is slacking off, and perhaps is the enemy.

This dream is portraying the idea that when something needs to happen, and it doesn’t happen, time runs out. That’s one way of seeing it. Another way of seeing it, on a more personal level, is that when you feel that something needs to happen, and it doesn’t happen, then it means it’s carrying on against you in some way. That’s an interesting thought, isn’t it?

I think that’s a quality or trait of the feminine nature. If something isn’t in flow, then the feminine begins to feel insecure and wonders if she is still appreciated. Then she will often try to overcompensate in order to get a reassurance that everything is okay. But this process is destabilizing to your flow in terms of what you are meant to hold together as an overall space. It takes you astray to have to ponder whether this energy is an enemy or not. So the energy is no longer functioning as part of you; it’s not an aspect that you can identify with – it has become lazy.

So, I would say, this dream brought you some completion from something that occurred personally, as a kind of breakthrough, even though it is completeness in a different way. We have a peculiar belief that everything has to end in a fairy tale. A lot of things do come together in a wonderful capacity, but they don’t look like fairy tales. When you are able to realize something, even if it looks like a disaster, to be able to grasp the image, means that something inside you gets it. So that’s a coming together.

In other words, it’s not an either/or situation where there’s the fairy tale ideal with the perfect ending, or otherwise it’s a total loss. It can also have a catastrophic ending, yet new understanding has been attained. Many teachers say that you learn more from mistakes than you do from successes. So you had a dream where you probably learned more than if the image had ended with a wonderful glow and you saving the day.

Maybe the drama can transform things, whereas the happy ending leaves nothing more to do. It seems like a drama can pull something through more quickly and more succinctly. We shouldn’t always see things in such a black-and-white way. In my experience you can get more value from things even if they are unpleasant at the moment.

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