The Marriage

Jeane: In this dream it feels like I traveled. I may have been in a car with you, I am not sure, but now I am walking. I stop by one house in the woods where I notice someone doing something a little peculiar. Whatever it is that I see influences me as I walk further.

I come upon a friend’s house (a friend I knew a long time ago) and I see they have cordoned off an area of their driveway with a tarp. There is a shower hooked up. I feel a sudden urge to take a shower. I don’t know if I even take off my clothes, but I notice she has left a shampoo bottle there.

I begin to shampoo my hair when my friend and another woman come out to see what is going on. I feel a little awkward standing under the water and shampooing my hair, but it feels like they just realize that it’s me and they go back inside the house.

After a little while I either go into her house or another friend’s house, and they are having a gathering. They have a lot of flowers in vases that they are taking somewhere else. I know there is a wedding for someone, but I had not planned to go. Now I think I should.

After the shower I felt ready to go home, but I looked for you and you were in a side room watching a football game and I couldn’t get your attention. So I go back out to the living room. I am confused: perhaps the wedding is over and they are having a reception? I can’t remember what the wedding invitation said.

I try to ask some questions to get the information, without revealing that I don’t remember. I don’t want to ask directly. Because of that, I’m not getting the answers I want. I just can’t figure out what’s going on, but I’m feeling too embarrassed to ask.

John: Your dreams have tripped me up at times because they often have a quality where they start off fast with a lot going on, and then they slow down. Now that fastness is the secret to this dream, and the slowing down is a way of monitoring and following up.

After taking the shower you somehow begin to recognize that it is all connected – you are reaching a type of wholeness. The wedding, or marriage, is a form of completion, where everything gets brought together and is accepted. And the journey that allows that coming together to happen is one of letting go.

The beginning of the dream had so much speed that it had to be tempered down to something that was meaningful and digestible enough for you to handle. The fastness of the beginning is really a very open state of flow, but you are unable to really remember it or hold onto the imagery.

So then it all slowed down. You took a shower, and then discovered the wedding plans and how you felt about that – whether you should be part of it or not. The whole scenario shows different aspects of you. You are the person getting married, but you are not sure how you feel about that. You are not sure if everything has been completely cleaned up.

The interesting thing is, you didn’t need to go through all that. When it was speeded up at the very beginning you didn’t need to question everything – you were in the flow of things. Yet it was too much light and too much energy for you to handle, so it slowed down to a point where you had to experience the details and the questioning of the process.

When you make switches in a dream sometimes the energy changes completely. When it does, it opens up and reveals something – it comes popping through. This is a new way for me to be able to look at dreams. In other words, there are levels at play.

I have noticed this myself that if I have dreams in the early hours of the morning they are very difficult to pull out because they occur at a greater depth inside, a depth at which things are speeded up. The later dreams are easier to access, they become more tangible, because they are slower and happening at a shallower level.

Here you have that process happening within a single dream. Even as we are sleeping, our ego nature is operating. It’s very tuned down, of course, not running rampant in relationship to one’s thoughts and moods, and having to deal with the denseness of life. But it’s still that ego shadow of one’s nature that is behind the quality of the images in dreams.

So everything is slowed down to catch that. Of course, it’s much better that it can be revealed in a dream as opposed to having to live through it in one’s outer life, where the speed is glacially slower (the same revelation process could take days, weeks, months, or even years before you get it).

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