Joining the Dance

John: In this dream, I’m in a dance studio and I’m standing in an area between two halves of the room that lets me observe the teacher working with his dance class. I’m just watching what he is doing and I’m supposed to be learning, by way of recognition and reflection, what the class is being shown.

I notice that one side of the room is all or mostly female students, and the other half is all or mostly male. I sense that something has to be brought together, but it hasn’t happened yet.

So eventually the teacher directs the two sides of the room to join together. The motion of people flowing through the area I’m in drags me into the class. I’m swept up in it and I’m a little hesitant because I haven’t been practicing the dance moves like everyone else. The question is, was I able to pick up the moves by observation?

So, I’m challenged to reflect upon what I’ve seen that affects me as a flow. I must trust that I took the movements in and remember how they felt. If I do, then I’ll be able to move as effectively, and naturally, as the moves feel when I imagine them in my head.

To the left of me are two women seated in chairs. The teacher is instructing us how to extend our left hand out, as if we’re forming a line dance or something. We’re supposed to connect with a partner this way, and I’m doing this pretty literally, you know, I’m just flopping my hand out there and the woman is supposed to put her hand in my hand.

But there is no rhythm or flow to my movements. One of the women gets up and leaves, and the other one moves one chair over, which means there’s an empty chair in between. Well, the teacher, as if he realizes that something is too linear (too masculine), starts to suggest that the gesture be made in a beckoning way.

In other words, you don’t just flop the hand out there. The hand is supposed to be an enticement to come together, naturally and sweetly. So, the teacher demonstrates again, indicating that the connection we make will be natural when it occurs from a connective flow – it will be effortless.

What is being shown through this imagery is very similar to your recent series of dreams: it’s about bringing something into life. I’m recognizing that when I allow myself to watch and feel the rhythm and flow of life, I can see how smoothly everything proceeds.

Yet, as we all know, until we have done it ourselves we tend to question our capability. That questioning introduces awkwardness; there’s no natural flow to it. In a sense, we can’t do it with the brain alone – we have to feel it and sense it to be in the flow of things. That’s where everything proceeds smoothly, where one hand beckons, and the other hand reaches to connect, in an unending dance.

When we feel that awkwardness, it is really about identification with our self. We put the spotlight on “us,” rather than on the flow that we are joined with. When we put the identification on us, we are no longer just being the movement, we are mimicking the movement, or “trying” to do the movement – but we aren’t the movement.

In this sense, we are pretending at life. We aren’t actually living in the flow of it, we are just pretending to; we are acting like we are in the flow of it. But we can only be in one space at a time: we are either in the flow, or we are in ourselves.

That’s why we need to let go of ourselves and surrender to the flow. In that way, we fit in with life. We live it and participate in it. In other words, it’s not just the experience of it, but we have to live it – then the naturalness unfolds.

This dream is telling me that my formal, linear side (my masculine nature) must let go. Otherwise I’m contributing to my sense of being separate. I must let go of that aspect of my identity and rhythmically join in with the flow of life that is presented to me.

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