John: This dream is a reflection of something I carry as an affliction in my outer life. We all carry so many afflictions, mostly unconsciously, but they dictate actions and reactions in our daily lives.
By not being attentive in recognizing them when they arise, we basically allow them free reign. Or, if we ignore or deny them, we leave them in a state of semi-consciousness and never get beyond them.
Dreams can be very instructive for us in that they can reflect these inner limitations by showing us how they look through a series of images. In this particular dream, I’m shown a condition that affects me, in another person. That makes it a bit easier to see and accept, because it doesn’t feel so personal.
We’re all so used to expressing our anger or psychologies into the world, and we rationalize them by thinking “that’s who I am,” as if that makes it okay. But, ultimately, these patterns and psychologies aren’t really us, they’re just behaviors and traits we have adopted from earlier points in our life playing out in repetitive ways.
When we can begin to recognize them – meaning to become consciously aware of them – we can develop understanding and find acceptance and forgiveness in ourselves. Otherwise we’ll just continue to let them be the leader of us, and we’ll make light of them, lie about them, and never face up to them. We don’t have to overcome them, we just have to let go of them and allow something new to come in that transcends them.
In this dream, the condition I’m looking at involves a dialogue with another person. I can see nervousness, even neurosis, in what this person is doing. I can see that it’s keeping them from facing what’s directly in front of them. This is causing them deep anxiety and it’s having a negative effect.
It seems obvious in this scenario that it would be better if this person could absorb it (recognize it) so that it no longer affects who they are. To absorb it is to release the energy that is blocked up and veiled because of this habit. Allowing it to continue is a form of acceptance, allowing the pattern to be lived out again. If we live the repetitive, personal traits we have developed, it prevents us from living something deeper.
In waking life, I tend to rationalize these aspects; I seem to let my defensiveness and personal biases dictate. However, when I’m kind and considerate toward others who share the same trait or affliction, I can gain the same healing for myself.
The image in the dream was rather trivial. However, it is such trivial conditions, when accepted as is, when embraced graciously in others so we can embrace them in ourselves that lead to a healing both in the inner and in the outer.
I see the person in the dream chewing on their finger, in the same way I do. Because I understand this trait, I’m able to talk to them directly about what they’re doing, even though I never quite acknowledge it in myself.
What would be the waking life scenario that could trigger a dream like this? Well, yesterday the woman who is selling us her Vegas condo had broken up with her boyfriend. She was carrying a wound that she was trying to handle more heartfully, but this emotional state showed its effect outwardly – her sensitivity wouldn’t allow her to hide it.
Because I understood this and accepted it in her, she was able to shed and absorb the effect of the pain more readily, which meant she was able to quickly return to her natural bright way of being. Seeing her do this was uplifting for me. To touch it or to recognize it is to cause it to shift.
So, when we develop a way of recognizing and identifying certain little vibratory energetics within us, we’re better able to stay in the flow, without being commandeered by them. Then, our greater overallness is able to reach out and touch things that need to be touched, or appreciated, or awakened, or shaped in some fashion – in terms of the energetic embedded therein.