Jeane: This dream has me wandering around The Strip in Las Vegas looking at what’s going on, deciding on what to show or what not to show someone else. I’m evaluating all the different options, and I remember one thing I considered a “two,” and another I considered a “six,” and something else I thought was a little too sleazy to include.
I”m just trying to figure out what’s appropriate to do with this other person.
John: When you try to figure out what to show someone, you’re also figuring out what’s unique and distinct in their nature that might benefit from what they’re being shown. If you can perceive that uniqueness, then you’re a step closer because there’s an intertwining between you and them.
In the dream, both people are representations of different aspects within you, so that points to you also being a step closer to seeing what’s needed to further intertwine with a greater aspect of yourself.
By contrast, if you show another person only things that you find interesting from your perspective, i.e., you aren’t attentive to how somethings needs to unfold for them, then there’s a kind of disconnection that comes up. That disconnection causes a dullness, or a blur rather than a clarity, in both aspects (you and them).
When there is a blur or a dullness caused because of a situation like this, what you’re supposed to be able to notice – in terms of yourself – is that some part of you is meant to come awake to the fact that something greater is possible, but that it isn’t quite happening. You develop a gap in the linkage, or in the connection, where instead of an energetic lift, the relationship between the two parts (or two people) becomes an energetic drain.
This imagery is something of a precursor to the idea: “How do you, in a certain sense, take responsibility over someone else, without taking on an even greater responsibility over yourself?” If you can take on that responsibility, then what can open up in you is an ability to see what the other person sees. You can see things from their perspective. But if you can’t, no matter how hard you try to show them something, it won’t come across, i.e., something greater can’t open up for the whole.
It’s an interesting dilemma, and one that’s associated with a person who holds themselves out as a spiritual teacher. A teacher has to have a focus and intent, a need really, to connect to the bigger picture. And in order to connect to the bigger picture, the teacher has to realize that things are so infinite, and God is so infinite in how He has hidden Himself in the manifestation of Creation, that they can’t disregard any inflection that lies in front of them.
That’s one of the reasons it’s stated in the Bible “Honor thy father and thy mother.” If we tend to reject or repudiate some aspect of our father or mother, we’re actually rejecting some deep family trait or characteristic inside us. We’re refusing to acknowledge an aspect of us that, for the sake of wholeness, can’t be suppressed.
Therefore, such an attitude or mannerism perpetuates a problem within, even at the level of the blood, that can carry on and on. Well, the same is true when working with others. The connection may not be as deep as with family, but humans have a common birthright that we’re meant to share – we can embrace a greater, shared perspective.
For example, our teacher has described how he really only cares about a few things, one of them being his family. When he says that, he’s really including all of his students as part of that family. And he has to give up (like a mother of things), all that he can possibly give up inside himself to try to see the something there (within the family) that can awaken and is meant to emerge. In doing so, he supports that emergence and growth.
So he’s seeing beyond the little variances and nuances of daily life and, as he does that, he facilitates the awakening of the whole. The teacher does it for a larger group, perhaps thousands. Your image shows you attempting to do something similar within yourself.