The Blessing of the Feminine

Jeane: Next I have a dream that has to do with moving from one place to another, and the only part I remember is that I wanted to meet you somewhere. I’m going through some hallways that almost look like they’re in a castle, and there are some people coming out.

Maybe some of them are going where we’re going. It seems like you’ve already gone ahead. One English man comes out and asks me about getting some aid to get where he’s going; some money so he can stay in the country longer.

I look at him and make the comment that he should talk to you, not me. But I realize that people are coming to me because word has gotten out that you sometimes help people. I’m wondering how to handle that.

He’s about college age or a little older. I’m pondering it because it might be good to have him along, but I also feel that he’s someone who gets by on his charm rather than working hard. I’m not sure that you’d want to help him unless he put in more effort.

John: This a dream in which you’re looking at the masculine and feminine aspects of understanding. As the feminine perspective, you’re able to have a certain sense of understanding and clarity about how something needs to be, or should be, i.e., is it appropriate to give support to the masculine in this scenario?

So you have a feeling sense of the situation, but that doesn’t mean that the idea is grounded, i.e., does the masculine deserve your support in what it’s trying to do? So you’re weighing whether this specific aspect is something that’s meant to be incorporated in the whole.

The idea presented by the masculine can sound good, it can make a lot of sense, but it still may be on a level that’s not grounded – it doesn’t quite integrate into the schematic of the whole. The feminine may not be making her assessment by knowing the details of the situation – she may not know the As, Bs, and Cs of it – but the feminine does know, and can tell, whether something has the right sense or feel about it in terms of how it’s unfolding.

So that feminine aspect, if acknowledged and made conscious, can often reveal whether it considers what’s transpiring to be right or not. You can often see this in a husband and wife relationship. A husband can seem to make a lot of sense, but then if you look at the wife you can notice how she holds it together.

If she doesn’t have a wellness, and isn’t holding it together very well, everything gets kind of peculiarized in her nature, and she’ll be off in some way. Then you realize that the whole situation between them is off on a tangent, it’s out of balance. The husband may sound realistic and have a whole quality and nature of confidence about him – and you often see this in people who develop a certain natural rapport with things – but that doesn’t mean that what he’s doing is right, or fits.

Many couples have found a niche for themselves that kind of works, in an agreement way. But then you look at the wife and the wife may seem all worn out. That’s because in her role of having to clarify all of this, and to make it all make sense, she’s taking on something that deep down she knows has something amiss about it. And she may never be able to get over the degree to which she’s slightly unsettled. As a consequence, she can break down: reactively, emotionally, physically, all kinds of ways that a person can break down.

So this dream is actually a furtherance of the first dream (see Crossing Over), where the masculine provided a “bridge” that was inadequate for the space that needed to be crossed. This inadequate bridge indicates that you have a certain degree of personal identification, in terms of something about the outer, physical condition of things, and it’s interfering with your ability to take on the overallness (cross the bridge), of which you know you can be a part.

There’s the sense that because you’ve gone off onto it, i.e., you’ve taken on this role, it means you’re supposed to be able to take the whole thing on, contain it, and make everything fit together.

And you have made the journey to do just that; this dream indicates that this is the role you’ve taken on or carry. But you don’t necessarily carry the detail of things (masculine), so if someone looks to you to know if what’s presented is right or not (is the bridge sufficient, or should I help this student?), your assessment can only determine whether or not this “something” is working in a complete way or not.

One can ask the masculine, in which it would become a process of reviewing the details. Your dreams portray a general sense, and that general sense is the answer without the detail. The masculine side of things can have the detail, and the detail can all sound right, but it doesn’t have the view of whether it fits within the overall schematic.

The question is, is a thing to be blessed, or ushered in, or accepted by you in terms of the overall? So you’re learning to recognize what fits and what doesn’t.

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