Staying the Course

t182Timing is an important factor in life, and in dreams. We often may find that we feel ready for a change, and we’ll become impatient for that change to happen – even to the point where we might force things that shouldn’t be forced – just to speed things up. In such situations, if we’re paying attention, we might get a dream something like this one, where the dreamer has the desire to leave, but every direction she turns seems to point to her staying. That doesn’t mean forever, it may just be for the time being. Sometimes there’s still something left for us to learn, before the next phase begins. (At the end of this post there are instructions and a link to download this recording to your computer.)

Jeane: So I really just remember one dream that went on a long time. In this dream, I’m living in a house with other people and, at one point, I go to visit a boyfriend who has his own apartment that’s down the street and up some stairs, and spend the night with him.

Then I come back and I’m thinking about moving out of the house to live with him, but then I become aware that the lady that’s in charge of the house has also been with this boyfriend and thinks that she’s going to move in with him. Well, this is kind of a surprise to me, so now I can’t move in with him because obviously he has this other girlfriend, too.

At the same time what this has done is thrown the whole issue of who’s living in the house into a bit of chaos. Because she believes that she’s moving out of the house now, she begins showing me parts of the house I hadn’t seen. So she shows me all the rooms, including the inner room where she lives, as though I’m going to take over the house when she leaves.

But I realize though I had been planning on leaving myself, and although I won’t leave to go live with the boyfriend now, that I don’t really want to be taking over this house that she was renting out, or that someone else owned and she was in charge of. I’m not sure how it worked, actually.

Meanwhile there’s other people that rent there, so I’m looking at their rooms or at them, too. And then there’s a family with two young girls that seems to have moved in. And these girls are really mischievous and are kind of trying to cause some problems. And, at one point, I leave the inner room and I go open a door and the girls immediately like bow down on the floor as though they’re in a mosque or something, but I know that they’re really up to some kind of mischief so I tell the kids that actually I have secret cameras all around the house and I’ve been filming exactly what they do to show to their parents – so to not try to pull all these pranks.

And that seems to stop the pranks because I don’t seem to see the kids anymore in the dream. But now I’m trying to figure out what to do because I realize, you know, from leaving the house sometimes and visiting people and then coming back, I realize that if I stay in the house you have this whole house and yard and everything to run, and I had been planning on moving out and I wanted to simplify.

And I think the lady that had been running the house was thinking that if she moved out, I would just move in. But since that’s not going to happen, I have a feeling we may all have to be leaving the house because we’re having some discussions and it feels to me like no one really wants to take over running the house the way that she did. Most of us are trying to simplify. On the other hand, that may mean that we have no one to run the house and, as I look around, I’m not sure that it’s an easy situation out in the world anymore to just go rent a space that works either. So I’m trying to figure out what it is that will work. I think that’s when I wake up.

John: Your dream has one simple theme that runs through it, and that simple theme is to “hold the course.” In other words, there’s nothing to be found in terms of going out the place, or moving out or, in other words, trying to extend into the outer. There’s nothing to be gained by doing that.

That instead you’re being kind of told, shown, caused to feel, that in spite of all of the ideas about this, or that, that the catching up or revealing comes from taking and having an overall presence in the place where you’re at.

In other words, you already know a certain degree of what is going on within the place, and that you are realizing, by the way circumstances seem to be, that there’s more to the place than meets the eye. But in realizing that there is also an uneasiness, in terms of having to sort out all of the complexities within the place, and so you can get caught in that, and trying to figure out ways to pedal that or to spin it off even. Thinking that by spinning it off that will ameliorate the uneasiness that you feel – but it won’t.

In other words, the latent driving force of wanting to make a transition, or to move out, or to shift somewhere else, that vibration is just not being supported in that it’s a want, or an interest even, so to speak, but the position you find yourself in seems to require the need to stay the course – because there are more rooms there than you realize, and things aren’t done yet, things are still in the process of balancing out. And there’s still a revealing that needs to occur.

You can’t pretend to see what you don’t see. You can feel the imbalance, but you can take it another step, in terms of your presence there, so that somehow it can resonate. So it’s kind of a dream telling you you’re situated the way you’re situated, and have to contend with what you have to contend with and, in doing so, you’ll find whatever you find, if anything. That sounds kind of dull.

Jeane: It was.

John: But the other, which seems more glamorous, in other words, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence kind of thing, is…

Jeane: An illusion.

John: Yeah, it’s only going to get you more disoriented, because if you can’t handle where you’re at, how are you going to handle where this other is? You’ve got to have that base figured out first, and you haven’t fully owned your own space where you’re at yet.

And so it’s kind of a dream that I guess has a question behind it in terms of this, that, and the other and, as you look around, you don’t find any supporting evidence for making the transition. Your inner world does not give you any supporting evidence. It just shows you that there is still more to be revealed, and that you’re perspective about things is maybe right, and maybe wrong. I mean probably somewhat right, but you also carry a responsibility to everything that’s in this place and just because you can have an inkling about what’s going on doesn’t mean that that goes anywhere.

In other words, it does you no good to pretend, with the prankish side of yourself, that you see where it’s going and what it’s doing as if that’s going to cause something to change. It won’t change, especially not if you’re planning on leaving the house. And you’re pretending that you have an idea of what it’s about, while at the same time carrying in the back of your head this idea of being able to go somewhere else, eventually go somewhere else. In other words, you’re not accepting where you’re at, kind of having a dream that keeps going around and around to which, when you look at the facts, seems to suggest that you need to stay the course.

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