When there is sex in a dream, or a marriage in a dream, it suggests the close interconnection between two parts of our inner self. It doesn’t matter if the dream characters look like people we know in real life, our unconscious is just using them as a representation, and to make a deeper point. In fact, the further removed our character is from the sex scene, as in this case where the dreamer is observing a woman unknown to her, that distance is a clue to how far apart these inner lives still are. And the point of such a dream scene is to bring the two inner parts together – if we can remove our resistance from the situation. (At the end of this post there are instructions and a link to download this recording to your computer.)
Jeane: In my second dream I seem to have two houses. And in one house, it’s more like a little split level summer house, a little flimsy, and I’ve gone from the main house where I am over to the second house and I’ve gone into the basement, which is like a recreation room, and my old trainer, Anthony, is there and it feels like I’m thinking about getting back into training.
And then there’s a woman and her son there, as well, and he’s mostly working with them. Occasionally I go over to him, but I’m not really dressed right and I’m not quite yet into what I should do yet. I can’t figure it out, plus the lighting in the building is really dim so I can’t see really well.
And at some point I leave and they’re still there working out. And then I come back, and it’s even darker out when I come back, and I go down into the basement.
John: So what you’re describing right now is a quality in which Anthony represents the masculine, or a macho, and that this is a quality… and that house is like a summer house? Is the other house more of an all-year house or something?
Jeane: Yeah, the other house is where I really hang out.
John: Year-round right?
Jeane: Yeah.
John: And so something that’s in the sun, the sun represents the masculine symbolically, and something that’s like that is like kind of a fair weather kind of thing. And at that point in time things are done, activity occurs, masculine macho activity occurs, and you, in relationship to that house, are something that is getting worked upon.
In other words, it’s like you can get beyond your moods, you can feel better about yourself when you walk, when you work out, when you exercise, and the process that pushes for that sort of thing is a masculine process. That’s why you see women for example that take and try to join a guy’s world, and start putting on feminine suits, and whatnot, that they become very linear in their nature and they drop a certain feminine quality, and a certain mannerism, by which they can approach themselves from within, or as an awakening sensibility that can rise up from a depth inside of themselves having been touched by things of the masculine. Instead they’re now trying to be in that area, unnaturally, and it doesn’t quite look right and you can see how their feminine nature suffers from it.
So what you’re doing is, is you’re doing a parallel dream that has some similarity to the other dream before, only this time the masculine side is portrayed as this flimsy house with the macho protective workout, and the guy that pushes something. And what he represents is like a will that then has its effect upon the subjective side of yourself, the manifestation quality of yourself.
So you’ve gone over to this house – which is what you were trying to do in the dream, the other dream. You were trying your best to try to figure out how, on the other side of the bed, to get all of that stuff to come together. So now you’re back over, only this time it’s in the flimsy house. It’s the weaker part of yourself that you’re trying to catch up with, and you’re trying to see how to handle yourself, what that is all about.
But where your main residence is, because the feminine is creation, your main residence is not by and large there. In other words, this is the weaker side and, of course, like we tried to describe in the other, this is the side that brings in the out-breath, and brings in the sight, and seeks to do things that cause an awakening that then seems to engage, subjectively. And the key is to pull the two together so that you have a full breath. You’re trying to do this dream again, you’re trying to do the first dream, and you’re making a parallel of a kind of same way approach in this dream.
Jeane: So I’ve gone downstairs, and I discover that Anthony’s like pulled down a bed that I guess was down there and he must have made love with the woman. They’re still lying in the bed. I don’t want to wake them up, but I can’t quite leave the room because I’ve kind of fallen down on some blankets that were on the floor and got my feet tangled up in them.
So I’m trying to be quiet, but they’re half awake. He’s saying something to her. So then I go upstairs after I get myself untangled. I go upstairs and there’s hardly any light in this place, so it’s hard for me to find my way around, but I think the woman comes up and is starting to do some laundry and I’m kind of nearby just observing. It’s almost like there’s so little light that even though I’m there in that house where they are that I’m somewhat invisible.
John: So the last part you’re doing is you’re watching all of this, you’re trying to watch how it is that this whole process quickens something, touches something, what that effect is all about because a part of you is the watcher watching another part of yourself that’s affected by Anthony, in terms of this being the other woman that Anthony’s macho, strong, masculine, out-breath features, or mannerisms, or nature is exuding its, you might say, magnetic out-breath effect upon an innerness that wants to come out, that is waking up. But it’s waking up as an in-breath in a subjective way. In other words, you’re just staring and looking at the effect of the masculine and its play upon life in this other flimsy house.
So what you did is, from the first dream, where you had an understanding of how something was opening up subjectively, or rising up from a quality of manifestation, back towards the crown, you didn’t have to go back through that, apparently that part’s pretty well understood. You’re still coming to grips with understanding how the out-breath quality, the will, works. I mean you didn’t make any headway trying to reconcile the two in the first dream, so because that’s the issue at hand and not the other, the other completed. The in-breath area has no problems.
And that’s the nature of how we wake up. In other words, if we’re willing to face the stuff that goes on inside of us, and are sincere in wanting to understand it, we get information that’s provided to us as an inner coming into outer. And so you went into the inner coming into outer, which means you went across the street where that’s the zone where something is happening on a masculine oriented and dominated level.
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