Finding privacy in a dream is an interesting concept, for we can look at it as an attempt to be with ourselves – to find that inner place where we know and understand who and what we are. Which raises the question: is that what we mean when we say we want to “find ourselves”? Being alone, Me time, regrouping, are these some of the words we use when our systems are telling us that we are too far from our true home, the home within, that is connected to everything? (At the end of this post there are instructions and a link to download this recording to your computer.)
Jeane: I just remember one dream last night. It was like I was going to see a man I had gone out with from Lebanon, and he was visiting me at my dad’s house, so we had gone upstairs to be private. But it feels like a cousin that I had came up and peeked around the corner, so we kind of shooed him away. And then we were upstairs together, and then I decide we have to go down.
There must be relatives of the house, so we have to go down and visit because my family’s there, and my cousin’s visiting and his family. So we don’t really find much privacy to just be together, because we hadn’t seen each other for a while, and then he has to leave.
Then a time passes, and I’m going to Seattle to see him off because he’s flying to Lebanon. I go there, and we’re at the airport, and I seem to have one of his bags that has a shirt in it. I think there were two shirts and he’s got one of them, but I’m holding the other. And then there was a girl that comes that had wanted to see him, but he sends her away. It must have been someone he knew from over there.
And then I go with him to the airplane, but then suddenly he’s gone and he’s gotten on the airplane and I realize that I still have a bag with one of his shirts in it, but they’ve already closed the gate so there’s not much I can do about it.
The dream had the whole feeling of there wasn’t that much time to really try to complete being with someone, or seeing them. What’s odd about it is that I had a feeling that the whole dream was trying to show me something about one of the Tai Chi movements where you kind of go down and come up, and make a hit, and then back off and go down and go forward again. It’s a little sequence of movements, and I had a feeling the dream was trying to explain to me what the movements were about.
John: The dream was about trying to get you to recognize that everything that you’re doing is a projection in some way, shape, form or another. In other words, what you were seeking in that situation, over and over and over again, was a state of stillness. Even the Tai Chi movement itself is, the epitome behind all of that is, to get a stillness to come out from inside of yourself.
But we don’t seem to know how to let go. We seem to constantly have an intrusiveness. So, in your dream, with regards to trying to find a projection space, you find that you can’t have a projection space without somebody peeking around a corner or something, so you can’t find a stillness, or an aloneness, whether it can be a quality of a kind of merging. And then you give in to the collective consciousness of things where you go down and you start trying to relate to others.
Again, this would be a relating that has to do with the projection of yourself in some way, shape, form, or a capacity, for the edification of others. And they, of course, then would be projecting for your edification. And all of that, all of that keeps veils in place, and the dream points out that within all of that comes possessiveness. A possessiveness is a type of defense mechanism.
A defense mechanism per se is the breath. The in-breath and the out-breath per se is all just one great big defense mechanism. The fact that we have to breathe is just a condition of the way we are in a duality, in the way we relate to things being a duality. The stillness is the interval, the interval both in the out-breath turning to the in-breath, and the in-breath turning to the out-breath. This is what we all want. This is what we all seek. It’s what we all know, and deep down, in that regard, there’s nothing to be learned. We already know this. But we are caught in this in-breath and out-breath, in-breath and out-breath, in-breath and out-breath that causes the sorting out delusionality to continually exist.
What we all seek, what we all reach for, is when we’re really, really touched by the principle of love and life, our breath stops at the interval where the out-breath turns to the in-breath. And that awakens what is needed as kind of a propelling magnetism, even though it’s a split second, to starting the quality of journeying back to where the in-breath to out-breath interval, which is the essence of all that exists is located, from which then you come down as your thought.
And, again, you have this yo-yo effect of in-breath and out-breath, in-breath and out-breath. It’s the only thing going on, in-breath and out-breath. You take that away and there’s nothing going on. Nothing ever was going on. There is no journey, and it is just a matter of stillness.
So what you dreamt is you dreamt yourself in this amnesic condition of deep down probing towards a stillness, but never able to find the stillness because there was always some nuance, or problem, or dilemma that was affecting the situation. Either you hadn’t given something up that you needed to give up, or something was being projected upon you, or you were trying to do some sort of projection, whether it was possessive, which is not giving up, or however it was, the situation had the common theme running through it that there wasn’t really a letting go that needed to happen, and that needed to happen from some level inside of yourself that you already know.
And instead you were probing about, seeking about, trying it to be this way and trying it to be that way, instead of just letting go. So the process of, if you were to call it like as if it is a process that involves the system of breath, as if there is a system of waking up, the process is not to take and dwell upon the breath, the in-breath and the out-breath, per se, because that in the end falls away.
So do you dwell upon it, and by dwelling upon it will it fall away? Yet that seems to be what every process does is it dwells upon dealing with the depths of the breath. It dwells upon it in order to accentuate a recognition that is in the breath, per se, of the in-breath and the out-breath component that is reflective, that there is the bifurcation.
And so we have dream after dream after dream volleying about, and if you look at these dreams you’ll notice that they all reflect a certain state, or point, of where we’re at in relationship to the breath, to the in-breath and the out-breath. And when there is a getting it, when there is that stillness, there is nothing to be said. There is nothing to be figured out, just something to sit with, something that sweeps over.
What keeps that from being known, that keeps the time and space domain going, is this breath of in and out, as if it is a sorting out, in which there is then the heart that sits there with everything being poured upon it in this in and out breath. When the heart itself knows the stillness. The heart itself is the mirror.
So you have to learn, and you have to figure out, how to relate to the mirror. And the mirror that you have to relate to is the heart. The heart mirrors everything, and if you come across in a way so that the mirror or lens of the heart cannot see what it already knows, then you create confusion. And when you create confusion, that confusion can be like on an outer thought-upon-thought level. Any motion along those lines gets in the way of that stillness.
So there’s just the stillness. In the end you come to realize that it’s an awkward position that we find ourselves in, in that we have the in-breath and the out-breath that is our means of trying to sift and sort out – as if we’re trying to find some sort of cohesive balance – when it can never be done in that way if one doesn’t somehow catch up with the stillness.
The stillness is in a state of amnesia in every person, and the key is to break that out of its amnesia so that it comes out on its own. When it comes out on its own, that is when a person becomes real. It’s a process of mirroring is what it always is, not a process of attempting to educate, or wake something up. Everything that is known is already in the individual.
The process is in facilitating being able to be open to who and how they are, and the art is to be able to mirror the letting go and drop the defense mechanism reactions.
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