Need for Connection

When we look at a dream we can understand the timings of events. We might be early, or running late, or missing something altogether. Obstructions may arise that prevent us. Roads may get steeper, or bridges may be out. In the dream world, we are looking at inner timings in the sense of: are we ready for what is trying to happen? If not, we will put barriers up. How intense that becomes tells us a lot about our own resistance. When we are ready, and the timing is right, the connections are made: a car will arrive, a road will appear, or a person will show up. (At the end of this post there are instructions and a link to download this recording to your computer.)

John: That sets the meditation tone, of which, then there are three dreams. In the first dream, I’m at a restaurant with a close friend, only he, in this instance, owns the restaurant. He is able to dictate what’s able to happen there. 

There’s something more that is needed to open things up. And this person I am with is someone I’ve known for a long time that sees himself close to me, and, at the same time, I think a lot of him. But there’s a certain distance; he seeks to close the distance. It’s as if something’s trying to open up inside of me. 

As I get up from the table, to order or to get something that is missing, he suggests I go to the wine room, pick out a wine that is already open, and he points to a thing that indicates that I put it on his tab. This is something that is hard for me to do. I have too many things in the way in terms of trying to simply go to the wine room to get this bottle. 

First, I have to go to the bathroom. The bathroom is in a place that is kind of off to one side, and I keep forgetting how to get there. So this is causing me to be disoriented. And then I know I’ve got to get the wine before I can even order the food. Oh, this is just getting really confusing. The problem I’m having is a lot of time is going by and this is another concern; I’ve got to get back to the table. He’s going to wonder what the heck is the matter with me.

The meaning is, in this dream, there is an awareness that is part of an unfolding scenario I have been averting. The heart is inadvertently estranged because of a disorientation I yet carry. So the disorientation is one of timing, so we’re working with the timing aspect.

The meditation dream worked with both timing and spaciality. So this works with timing, the next dream works with spaciality. 

In the next dream, the unfoldment flow has me checking into what feels like an educational retreat, which I see myself as scheduled to go to. This time, I will be visited by a close friend and his wife. I haven’t seen them for years, like 30 years or more – a long, long time. And I have a special connection with him, and an inner heartfelt merge connection – that is unspoken – with her. 

I have heard that they are divorced, and have been like this for a long, long time. Long ago I’d help them get together. And they had a daughter who I never saw, who is now all grown up, probably 35 or 40 years old now. This is a meeting in which the three of us are to meet for the first time in a long, long time. 

Suddenly, I’m told she won’t be coming. This saddens me because I was really looking forward to this connection, to the reconnection. And then almost simultaneously with that, I am told that on the fourth, again four being an aspect of completion of the spaciousness, which is also part of the timeframe which I have set aside to be on this quiet, educational retreat that this woman has arranged for my room, meaning it’s like she has paid for it. See, I’m all prepared to pay for it, and now she has paid for it. It’s a little confusing, but, anyway, that has happened. 

And so the meaning is, as in the prior dream, there is a connective inner awareness that is waking up – because in the meditation dream I have a disorientation. In this dream, it is coming towards me. In the other dream I’m having trouble hearing it, in terms of the timing, and chain of events that predominate over the designed setting. 

In the first dream the guy at the restaurant table has a need that we see ourselves more closely. In other words, we come together; he and I come together more. He is reaching for that. I remain just out of touch.

In the prior dream, there is a timing needed for the connection to be in sync. And in this dream, the connection has always been there, in the heart, as a dormant overall spaciousness – a capacity that, deep down, encompasses my overall beingness. And from the meditation dream, I am aware of how there needs to be an energetic timing and spaciousness of the heart, which takes me to a knowingness, pent up as a waiting and watching inflective dormancy.

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