We have seen chase dreams with narrow escapes, and images where everything is coming together just as needed. So, if we are all the characters in our dreams, what do those two opposite experiences say about us? That we’re complicated, and that we have many pieces that really just want to be part of one thing. Yet to get there, we sometimes have to chase and catch, we sometimes have to woo, we sometimes have to invite in politely. In other words, some parts of us are more wounded or wary than others, and bringing them in from their separate or alienated state is something our dreams are trying to help us do. (At the end of this post there are instructions and a link to download this recording to your computer.) This post was originally published in April 2018.
Jeane: So, as the dream continues, I go to a counseling office where I’m starting work and the clients I have scheduled, at a certain time, don’t show up – and I’m somewhat concerned. One of them does phone, I think it’s a very brief phone call, or maybe there was just a message left, because I can tell that it’s not just one man but it’s two, that they’ve been traumatized maybe by war, and they drink, or do something. And I do want to get them into the office to be seen, but they’re very suspicious of coming into any agency, or working with anyone. I can’t even get the one to talk to me.
And I’m kind of pondering all that because I was working in the office and doing paperwork, but it feels like I don’t really see any clients that day and I’d had them scheduled, but they didn’t show up.
So I leave there and I go somewhere else, and when I’m at this other building one of the two of them shows up. The other one I feel like is out in the hallway somewhere, and I’m able to have a bit of a dialogue with him and set it up so they will come in. And I want him to bring his friend in for regular counseling, but I’m also explaining that if they come to counseling they have to come to counseling sober, you know at least for that time, because otherwise it’s like if you’re drinking you just retain what you learned when you’re drinking. You’d forget it when you got sober.
I’m trying to explain a little bit to them. and I’m trying to get him to get his friend through his paranoia about coming in to any room, or any agency, and getting it set up for them to come in. And I know that in some ways when they do come in they’d want to overwhelm you with how long they’d want to be there, and so I’m also trying to set some limits that there’s only so much you can take in at one time, you know, that we would have to have time limited appointments. It just feels like I’m trying to explain to them how that works.
John: So you’re describing the process in which you come to understand that there is a means of moving around, this moving around – which is really inside of yourself, but you see it as over a distance and such – upon which you can come to catch up with a deeper aspect, or essence, of what is real, or what the realness is.
And you tend to be inclined to viewing it as something that you access, or aspire to accessing, as opposed to it just being naturally there inside of yourself to be reached, or discovered, or unveiled, or unfrozen, or whatever the capacity is that one does, to justify sitting in an amnesia.
You then progress this to the point where you’re looking at parts of yourself that you need to somehow cater to, that you need to somehow or another assist or to help, that you need to somehow or another embrace. That it’s not sufficient that you take and have a depth that you can reach, or find, inside of yourself – it is meaningless unless it is something that can go and touch, and reach, all parts of yourself that are still astray.
And, of course, these are parts of yourself that you see need to take a step forward: that they need to show up for guidance, for counseling, for help. But then you come to realize that these parts of yourself that don’t show up, to the degree to which you’re not taking and closing the gap, that it’s not that easy, that you have to proceed to that, you have to go out of your way to touch that, to find that, and that when you do you’re bringing something together at the same time. That’s why it’s said that a teacher finds the student and, of course, this applies on a lot of levels.
Well, in your dream, that is kind of what you’re doing when you take and realize that you can get off of a certain pedestal and go and find, seek out, reach out to the parts of yourself that aren’t showing up. In other words, yes, you can take a position where you can expect it to come, but that doesn’t always work in that there are times when you have to reach out in order to touch something. And that’s why it is said that, it may look different, but the teacher being a proper teacher is actually selecting or going to the student. You know, it’s not that the student is clamoring to the teacher. That’s an illusion. It’s the teacher that’s making the accommodations always for the student.
That principle, if you were to sum it up in a word, for it to be effective it has to be invisible, or otherwise the student might get to thinking that there is something going on that’s important in terms of themselves, or something, and go off into a head trip or something on a spiral. So the teacher is most effective if they follow the principle; in other words, having the means and the ability to love without leaving traces. And that’s half of it. The other half, of course, which applies in a different way, is to fly without leaving a shadow.
So your dream, when you put that whole thing together, shows that you’re meant to have a means to connect to something deep, deep, deep inside and you just need to come to know that that is a wholeness that comes from you, you don’t go seeking it out somewhere. And when you catch up with that, recognized that way, then you exude it into the environment. You don’t expect the environment to change to your predilection. You exude it into however and wherever you put your attention.
It’s kind of like your pleasure to do that because you found it in the whole. You realize that it’s all the whole, and you realize that there isn’t two things going on, so you touch in that fashion, naturally, which is the principle of loving without leaving traces, flying without leaving a shadow, a shadow of some separation or something being kind of the motif behind it all. It’s not that behind it all. There are no shadows. It is just one thing, and one thing only, having a relationship with itself.
And so you took and you went from a kind of overtness, a kind of separation, or distinction, where something is expected to come just because you are still somewhat linked to the idea that you have to go somewhere in order to learn something. Therefore if you’re counseling that something has to come to you – instead of realizing that you are able to do this constantly, as opposed to conditionally.
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