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Kevin Dooley

When we want to gather our thoughts, or gain some perspective, we usually take a break from the normal and find a place of quiet and/or solitude. And with good reason: it is difficult to sort everything out when we are in the whirlwind of events. But we have that instinct to go and find a quiet place precisely because that’s when our higher connections and guidance can reach us: they can’t get through to us when we are in the spin of our external obligations, and internal moods and emotions. And, as this excellent dream scenario shows, our journey is trying to bring that quiet state into our everyday life – so that our guidance can always be with us. (At the end of this post there are instructions and a link to download this recording to your computer.)

Jeane: Well, I had one dream with two parts, and in one part of the dream a male cousin I haven’t seen for many years, that I really like, has come to town and I want to spend time with him.

And, at the same time, there’s a family get together at a restaurant I think we’re maybe both going to go to. But I find out I can’t spend time with my cousin because I guess he has a boyfriend that he’s going to go spend the afternoon with, so I’m kind of disappointed in that. But he’ll still be at the family luncheon for part of the time, but I’d hoped to go with him and then spend some more private time with him.

But I head off to the luncheon on my own. He’s there briefly, and the luncheon seems to move from this café that’s near the water to a second place where people are picnicking near the water, and then they seem to kind of go up into the mountains a bit to a third place.

Then we’ve left. He had left early; I think he left after the first place to go meet his friend. And everyone else has left, and I’m on my way back home, when I realize that I’ve left my purse somewhere. So I start to go back to the three places I’ve been before looking for the purse.

I go to the first one and there’s still some family there. They haven’t seen my purse, and then so I’m thinking in my mind about walking to the other two places. And then I remember that I’m also concerned because I have some taxes to pay and I can’t remember where I’m supposed to pay the taxes. That’s on my mind, so I’m trying to sort two things out at once now, besides the third thing of being disappointed that I couldn’t get together with my cousin. For some reason I feel like if he were along that it would be easier to sort all this out.

I finally realize that I probably am going to have to backtrack to all three places and make sure that my purse isn’t there and, at the same time, I’m feeling this pull to go home because I left my phone in my purse so if anybody found the phone and everything, and tried to phone my home I won’t be there. Since I don’t have a phone on me I can’t receive any calls, but it feels like I have to backtrack first and ask, and then I can go to my house.

Then I remember that all the taxes get paid at an office there. So at least now I know where to go. It’s like I’ve remembered what I need to do about the taxes. That seems to take a certain pressure off me, or create a relief, but I still have to go see if I can find the purse.

John: Yeah, the energetic last night was such that there were all these complexities that kind of threw the situation around, and it all had to do with something astir that is meant to be astir at this point in time – in terms of throwing a curveball at the issue of identity, or way of being.

Your dream is loaded with symbolism. First of all you have the cousin, who is gay, who you can’t spend much time with, representing something that is anew, like another level of things, a way of being in terms of something. There’s no judgement about what this is. It’s just that something anew is trying to be at hand, but can’t quite come through, and it’s meant to come through in terms of your overall beingness which means a beingness that has all of the relatives, or all of the parts of yourself, getting together.

And yet this part only flickers. It is only barely there and, as a consequence of something like this affecting the scenario of things, everything gets shifted. In other words, the restaurant that had been at a place along the water, gets shifted what, into the mountains.

See, in the town there’s all kinds of clutter and complexity. Things are not simple, and so even though you have a water setting, which is supposed to inflect an emptiness, you have a scenario that still has a heck of a lot going on.

So then when it shifts to a place in the country you have the simplicity of the setting, and you don’t have a lot of pressure hitting you. And then when it shifts to the mountains; each of things is building to a letting go, to an emptiness. So as you become more empty, the third image then is that you’re able to handle more complexities that are there to hit you, because going up into the mountains with the setting is to be able to survive ordeals, to work through ordeals, solve obstacles.

But then your dream proceeds to tell you how the one, two, and three like that works. In the first instance, it is something trying to come in, like the issue with your cousin, who you’re not able to spend the time that you need to spend with because of the fact that he prior commitments, or complexities, in other words. So that’s the first example.


And then, in the second example, the simplicity, that you might say corresponds with the country setting along water, enables you to recognize that there are obligations outstanding that have to be taken out of the equation.

In the third, where you hit an emptiness able to solve barriers and obstacles, to penetrate barriers and obstacles, that’s also when you don’t carry any kind of separate identity. And when you don’t carry any kind of separate identity, where you don’t have something else going on with you, like an internal dialogue or projection of some sort that you conjure up on your own as something that has to be done or is meaningful, when you’re able to be blank like this, or totally empty, that’s when you know how and where to deal with whatever comes along that still digs at you – like the idea of having to pay taxes.

When you go to the countryside, where there’s the lake, where all the parts of yourself come together in that kind of a scenario and you don’t have the outer complexity, you have the simplicity, you’re able to recognize unfinished business, taxes and stuff, that need to be paid – but you’re not empty enough yet; you don’t know quite how to contend with that.

When you go into the mountains, meaning that somewhere along the way of this whole journey you have lost your purse, you’ve lost your identity, when you become kind of blank like that, then you kind of know things naturally, in terms of the overall whole, that you’re able to feel.

In other words, you have made a journey that’s able to go from an innerness, the water represents an inner flow, you’re able to go from an inner flow that is not quite very viable in the city of complexities and peculiarities, in which you can have inklings of something coming anew, another level of yourself coming into the family, but flickering, not able to completely come through because there’s something different going on yet, so many different things going on, that as it progresses the energetic of that comes through, as a part of yourself having awoken energetically. That energetic that is needed there as part of you comes through, but you can’t put your finger on it in terms of quite how that transpired because it occurred as you were unfolding, or developing, and becoming more empty.

And along with that losing of identity which may have, on one level of the outer way of looking at things, been very disconcerting, on an inner level of things enabled you to access what was needed to be accessed, that was trying to come through, and simultaneously such an access gave you the ability to contend with things that on the first image you weren’t even recognizing or noticing yet.

In the second image there was still an amnesia a bit. On the third image you went through the obstacles sufficiently enough so as to be empty with no identity and, therefore, having in a knowingness that just was naturally there.

Isn’t that a complicated dream? So the secret to a dream like that is to recognize the process as an unfolding inner process, and then also be able to look at how this is an ongoing thing in terms of the outer unfoldment of things. Because what is happening on an inner level like this, it’s easy to try to stay with that as if one’s looking at this and trying to gather personal information in terms of what is going on. The way that the dreaming is also pointing to is what is different and what is happening in relationship to the inner into outer flow.

And so you have this inner waking up that is leading to a quality of a letting go where you drop the identities of yourself and become very simplistic. You can contend with things that complicate your life with responsibilities that are outer, such as the taxes. You eventually get to where you can release that sort of thing rather than put it into the heart as a characteristic that then veils you from being able to function according to how it is that you really are.

When you are contending with the taxes you have an identity that, if it’s in terms of having a responsibility, an obligation, a pressure in that way, when you set that aside, you can become more blank, and therefore more open and more receptive to yourself in an overall whole.

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shutter-focusIn this dream, the image of a family reunion reminds us that we are all the characters in our dreams. So to bring everyone together is an important event because to truly become connected, and to be in the flow, one needs to have all their inner lives in alignment – to a singular purpose. We can see in the outer world that successful people often have a singular focus to achieve their success. It’s true of an inner, spiritual path as well. Our decisions and actions need to be viewed through the singular lens of what we are in service toward. (At the end of this post there are instructions and a link to download this recording to your computer.)

John: So in this first dream I’m trying to reach a feeling where everything gets to be as it needs to be. In other words, there’s a feeling that’s like that, where everything is as it needs to be.

So in this dream, as I am seeking this, I notice that whenever you’re seeking something, or trying to get something to happen – instead of just being in it – that you are also in-between; you’re in a state of flux, reaching to find the tranquility.

So as I am wrestling inside what I seem to be doing is trying to catch up with relatives, in other words other parts of myself, that are in some other motif of mannerism or, in other words, they’re going to and fro doing what they feel is important in their life. And the setting that this is happening in is that I’m trying to come together and function as a family or, in other words, all the parts of myself in terms of relating, or being able to relate, to what is going on around us.

So anyway, I am unable to relate naturally when I react because the situation is unsold. In other words the parts are somewhere else. And so the way this is depicted in the dream is I go over to what is a main house, like a family house of the relatives. They’re all younger and I’m kind of an older guy that is traveling around to see the relatives or something.

So I go over to this main house thinking that what I seek is going to be there – but my timing is off. Everyone is gone, and the sense I have is I just miss them. So I wander around the yard pondering what to do next because there was nobody there.

Suddenly some of these relatives have come back from whatever it is that they were doing, but I can’t get comfortable. In other words, they’re still in a space in which they’re free flowing, or whatever they’ve been doing, and I can’t get comfortable in a way that I need to feel to get the focus to come together.

Although it’s nice to be together, because a moment earlier this is what I was seeking to reach, a togetherness like this, and now that the reunion is occurring and the relatives have gathered or are gathering, I realize that that doesn’t necessarily equate or turn into the tranquility that I seek – which has me baffled. And it’s almost as if they have to hang out to try to get this to come together because they’re young and I’m the older one in this group.

So I’ve gone into this ranch house that is situated on a hillside. It even has a tilt to it, like it’s an old house and it tilts a little bit. It’s not level as it sits on the hillside and it looks out over an expanse, which is this huge ranch environment it is in. Old house, been there for a long time, and carries the basics however, holds down the basics, the presence, or the setting.

The whole sense of the place is that the current conditions there have been getting by, but my presence is like creating a state of flux in which there needs to be a coming together. So I carry kind a particular vibe that presides, and exudes, and extends over the situation.

In other words, what’s happening is this dream is depicting me as someone who has a presence that can come into a situation and, based upon how it is that I’m carrying myself and feeling, I can effect that situation.

And the situation that I have come into is a situation in which there are the younger parts of myself living in kind of a natural way in life that seem to be okay with how things flow, they’re isolated from others in this rural ranch setting. And when I come into the situation with the mannerism that I carry, that I project energetically, is strong enough that it quiets everything. It interrupts the free flow, it causes something to be pent up or stifled even, because I’m carrying this specific, or specialized, or peculiarized, or vibe that exudes out as an inner energetic, an energetic that is situated on an edge trying to communicate what it feels needs to be made known. But I’m on an edge with it, but still the power is there besides, and it kind of affects the atmosphere.

So everyone here is familiar, they all are accustomed with the ranching day-to-day operations and they free flow with that, but with my presence it’s like they are suddenly having to kind of defer to see what more needs to happen, or what is to come out of all of this, to their attention, that seems to be something that would be like a bit of guidance or alteration of how they have been taking things in life – but they’re waiting to see how that is portrayed.

Because I’m on a bit of an edge, a little off, I’m seeking to figure out how it is that I catch up to what I realize needs to be communicated by me. In other words, I don’t just make this stuff up; it kind of comes through me.

The silence of this coming together is broken when it is noticed; who knows where this town is at because the place is pretty isolated, but all of a sudden there are people gathering in the yard and what looks to be happening is something is shaping up for kind of a neighborhood dance or party or something, a gathering, reception. And there are a lot of single women who are there and they’re noticing that the guys in the house are pretty young and single and available, and they’re trying to get their attention to ask them to dance.

In other words it’s reversed, the women are going to ask the guys inside the house to dance. And so this kind of energy is running counter to the seriousness and the mannerism that I’m carrying, and that has created the stifling energy, the somber energy, as they situate to see what this is going to be all about, what it is that I have to communicate.

So because I notice what is happening out the side window, there’s just this one window in which you see all of that gathered over there on the side, or coming together, that I can’t help but realize that how I am, in terms of trying to catch up with something to communicate, there’s something about that that’s stifled and now it’s even being negated, by choice, by what is taking place outside.

Because inside the theme is somber and something is waiting in terms of my nature that’s kind of pent up, hoping for a clarity to break through. And it’s like everyone has even given me space to get this to come out, to bring it through. I even see a person who looks away, careful not to disturb me as he offers me a sandwich and, of course, he’s reserved like this so he doesn’t interfere or affect what is necessary to happen next, that has to come out of me, getting off of this edge, and communicating something that I carry, that I feel, that they’re going to have to take in, that will affect the ordinary free flow that they’ve been used to in not a bad setting, actually. I mean they have been getting by out there by themselves just fine; it’s me coming in that’s kind of, in their openness, has kind of changed things a bit.

So, as I said, there’s this stifling vibe to the suspense. I break this up because I can tell there is no flow and, therefore, no clarity can come through. So I say, in terms of seeing the spontaneous gathering that is happening in what I had assumed was an extremely isolated and very sparsely populated area, which is now outside teeming with people who have gathered and come over to this setting, that this is such a contrast, and there’s a freedom and joy and happiness and liveliness in that, that this stifling suspense needs to be dropped. That there is a flow that has come together from the focus that is groping about yet seeking the peace in terms of it all. In other words something coming through, the idea being to reach a completion, or peace, or communicate something that adds more.

I suddenly realize it feels right to just let go to the flow outside and see where that is going. What is meant to be can either wait, or be found, in the letting go of the stifling suspense. In other words, I need to open up to the pent up flow that has arrived unexpectedly. In other words, my pent up flow is there that’s unnatural. What is happening is almost like coming to meet that. In other words, if I didn’t carry something that’s building inside, this other wouldn’t happen, either.

So the meaning is that the underlying vibe behind this dream is that of coming to grips with what needs to be. The problem with such a quest is there is no way of determining what it is that will directly satisfy the need. Everything around me has gotten subjected to the state that I am carrying which is of a stifling suspense – attentive to gleaning a guidance that lies just out of touch. And those in this space with me are giving me a lot of space as they patiently wait for what needs to unfold.

What I am meant to understand is there is no answer if the flow is repressed, and there cannot be a flow without a common focus. As these two variables come together, a realization occurs simultaneously. This occurs as a release of the pent up suspense breaks out of a stupor to a flow that opens up everything to be as it needs to be.

So what is going on is this dream is unwinding a pent up energetic, which is a barrier and suspense that stands in the way of catching up with the inner peace. The dream is also suggesting that I am able to come out of this pent up stifling quality when I relate to the energetic that is unfolding around me. In other words, before something more could happen something else has to give way.

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