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John: I have two very different dreams here that actually deliver the same message.

In the first dream I’m in very hot and sweaty conditions and I’m supposed to hold onto a vibration in a slow, steady, and consistent way. It wasn’t supposed to be this way – at least it’s not what I expected.

I’m convinced that I can sustain this vibration at an even quicker pace. Then it wouldn’t need to be so slow and be in such a hot, awkward environment.

Still, I resist my temptation to go faster, and as it turns out I see that I was better off going at this very slow pace. Eventually, the environment did cool down.

I found something very humble about this approach – a quiet consistency. There was no fanfare, and no frame of reference because this was not something that I would have chosen. My expectations gave me the urge to speed up. If I had done that, I would have missed out on being able to see myself as being steady, slow, and consistent.

That’s the first dream.

In the next dream, I just an average person and I’m in a parking garage. There is a man there – a dignified businessman in a suit – who has a bicycle as his means of transportation. It’s time for him to take this bike back out onto the street, but he doesn’t trust himself to do it.

What’s odd about this garage is that there’s an embankment that falls off to one side and you have to walk along the edge very carefully. Then you have to back the bike through the door. If you don’t know how to do that you could fall over the edge and never get it out. He’s afraid to try for fear of falling off the edge.

So, here I am, an average Joe, and I’m looking at what’s involved from his perspective, not from my perspective. I’m getting into his paranoia and his concerns and I can feel that they are being exaggerated.

I advise him on how he could proceed, but he won’t proceed. He’s reluctant. So, I say, “I’m so confident in what I see that if you want, I’ll do it for you.” This causes him to snap out of his reactivity for a moment.

He replies, “I’ll have to think about that,” which means he’ll just go into another kind of paranoia. I say, “I’ll give you two minutes to decide, no more.” He replies, “I believe you can do it, so go ahead.”

I take the back part of the bike off. I see a door off to one side, so I take the back part of the bike through that door and there is a little place that joins the outside and I shove the back part of the bike out of the parking garage. I didn’t even know about this door earlier – it wasn’t part of the plan.

However, the bulk of the bike won’t fit out that way, so I have to do what I had originally planned and go along the narrow embankment edge. So, I have to shift, from his fearful eyes to my knowing eyes, and the whole thing looks effortless to me – once the reactivity is taken out.

So, without even thinking I walk from one end of the parking garage to the other along the edge, as if it’s no big deal, and realize all I need to do is repeat that process with the rest of the bike.

When you put these two dreams together, what they are showing me is that I need to deal with life as it exists. In both scenarios, expectations color my perception of what should happen. In both instances, what should be an effortless process is made much more difficult because of what I bring to the situation in terms of reactivity or expectation.

If conditions are awkward, I can still go that route. Things don’t have to unfold according to my expectations, or timetable, for me to be connected. I need to drop these self-imposed limitations. Mostly these perspectives are never about serious issues anyway, they’re just mental distractions or old patterns. When I feel the strength from within, I’m able to proceed effortlessly; the problems just fall away.

So, on an energetic level, when expectation and reactivity fall away, the part of me that’s in emptiness, or in freedom, takes over with ease. It changes my experience of everything.

When this knowingness from within is reached, everything becomes simple for us. When I drop my projections about how I think things should proceed, it allows what is meant to be to occur naturally. The connection then is to a greater overall state that is simply there, without anything to complicate its overallness.

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Jeane: It was hard to wake up and pull out anything from my dreams. It felt like the dream I was having right before I woke up involved talking to a woman from the dream group.

I think she was going to move in with her mother and another woman, so there were two things that we were going over. One had to do with a type of medicine (a pill bottle) and the other had to do with something mixed up in a dish, like a copper pan that was set aside.

I was talking with her in an attic setting. It felt like I woke up from the dream, but then I drifted off again and had almost the same dream, involving some of the same elements. This time, however, there was also a man in it and the man was trying to get away from someone.

This version of the dream took place more outside and there was a girl helping him get away. She had been given a prescription for something but she had given it to the man, so she was going to write or fake another prescription rather than have the doctor write it.

I was having a lot of reservations about this because I felt like she was going to get in trouble if she did that.

John: In our recent dreams, we are both being shown issues that cause us to react in some fashion. A reaction is something that comes out from a lower center of one’s nature, from, more or less, the animalistic side. It comes from an area in ourselves in which there is no light. The angelic side in us is where the pure light comes from.

In the physical world, the first thing we learn to do is to react whenever anything is unusual, or awkward, or confronts us in some way and makes us uneasy. As a person gets a little more conscious, they realize that they need to quit doing those knee-jerk reactions because that just keeps them spinning in a cycle.

However, we can’t make that shift as a mental understanding; we have to take a leap in order to get away, because the opposite of our animal reactions is our light.

So in these dreams you are being tested to see if you can figure out how to turn to the light in each of those situations. That’s what is meant, to use an example, when the teacher says that he always has to have unconditional love for the student. He sees the student the same at the beginning as he sees them at the end.

When a teacher is confronted with an awkwardness or oddity coming from a student, the teacher responds by flooding them with light. Basically, it’s the opposite of what happens in the outer world.

If you are angry and you vent that anger toward something, then that something has to respond through its defense mechanism. But the teacher does the opposite. When something is out of balance, the teacher creates the mirror by flooding the student with light. Then he steps back in that capacity, so the reflection comes back upon the student.

A couple of things can then happen: The student gets it and immediately defuses it if they have a close enough connection to their own heart to be able to do that, or they get even more angry because they still need to vent, or the light overwhelms them to such a degree that what comes up is even more darkness – so they go from irritated to a kind of delirium state.

So the dream sets up this situation as an opportunity to see beyond the surface and recognize that you can’t get caught up in the outer. If you react, you are getting caught up; if you respond, then you are seeing deeper into the scene. Ultimately, reactions feed reactions feed reactions, and on and on it goes.

The imagery with the woman moving, and what that represents, are picking and poking at you. And your psyche brings in things like the medicine that causes you to flinch a little. From that you are supposed to realize that you can make a shift, and don’t have to wear yourself down in the triteness of it.

In other words, the prescription is like a certain order that is established inside of you in terms of how things are supposed to be. Somehow that order has gotten altered. A part of you knows that because of the way you are thrown around and reactive; you are very aware that you are basically not getting the memo.

The message is not coming through as clearly as it could. You know that that can lead to problems. This is again showing a misalignment, but the central idea is that alignment comes from turning to the light, rather than reacting toward the peculiarities that can just take you and throw you for a loop.

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